That depends on the nature of the relationship. In relationships that are of a close nature—partners, children, parents, good friends, and often co-workers—the rule is to let go, but if you can’t, then communicate with consciousness. So what you’re telling me is that you communicated with consciousness with her the other day. But when you communicate with consciousness, you cannot hold out for any particular outcome of any kind. You just simply communicate because your heart must speak. You say what you must say.
But what does she stimulate in you when she perpetually goes back to her misery and shows it to you in as many shapes and forms as she can conjure up? You need to ask yourself, “Why do I need to keep seeing this misery? What do I need to learn about this misery?” Because the truth is that you need to see that misery of hers for some reason that is about you. And that’s where we go. That’s the mirror, if you will.
When you can converse with her on the phone, and she does her thing, but it doesn’t catch you, then you will have succeeded in staying aligned with your consciousness and your frequency. Do you understand that? So, it’s okay to ask her, “Why do you want me to believe in this?” but your real question should be, “Why do I need to keep seeing this through her? Why does she keep teaching me about misery, and why do I keep picking that lesson with this person?”
And it’s not about removing the person necessarily, although that happens sometimes; the lesson is learned, the energy is dissolved, and there’s no tension any more to keep the relationship going, and so there’s an evolution. But sometimes, as with a family member, you learn how to do the work inside and to take the lesson and burn it in the fire of the desire to be peaceful and to be beautiful. You do not just intellectually say, “Well, now I’m not going to react to this verbally with her,” while you are still having a reaction inside. You must see when you’re getting stimulated inside and be honest with yourself so that you can really work with it for healing.
I cry very easily. If anyone is shedding tears, I'll just add mine to the puddle. Compassion is something else, right?
Maresha's next blog will be published February 4.
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